How to make small talk
What do you do when you've said hello to someone and want to continue the conversation? Make small talk! But how? Jackie is here with the language you need!
Jackie
Hello. Welcome to How To with bbclearningenglish.com. I’m Jackie Dalton. In previous programmes, we’ve looked at how to greet people and introduce yourself, with phrases like, ‘Hey, how are you?’ and, ‘I’d like to introduce myself.’ But what can you say in conversations after the initial greeting? You may often find you want to say something more to keep the conversation going, but you don’t quite know what to say. In this programme we’re going to look at some handy language and topics of conversation that you might use. Let’s start with our first one. Matt and Jane greet each other. What does Jane say after the initial greeting?
EXAMPLE
Jane
Alright Matt! How’s it going?
Matt
Yeah, no trouble. How about you – alright?
Jane
Yeah, not bad! I haven’t seen you for ages!
Matt
No, no – I’ve been busy haven’t I!
Jackie
Jane says, ‘I haven’t seen you for ages!’ which means, ‘I haven’t seen you for a very long time!’
EXAMPLE
Jane
I haven’t seen you for ages!
Jackie
A nice phrase to use when seeing someone after a long time. You could also say things like: ‘It’s been a long time!’ or, ‘I can’t believe it’s been so long!’
Now, for our next area of conversation: what does Neil ask Carrie after they’ve both greeted each other?
EXAMPLE
Neil
Hello, Carrie! You alright?
Carrie
Oh, hi Neil! Yeah, I’m fine thanks. How are you?
Neil
Great, what’ve you been up to?
Jackie
Did you get that? He said, ‘What’ve you been up to?’ – quite an informal phrase, which means: ‘What have you been doing?’ Obviously, he’s not expecting full details of everything Carrie has been doing, but it’s a friendly way of making conversation. Carrie responds to his question with quite a vague answer.
EXAMPLE
Neil
Great, what’ve you been up to?
Carrie
This and that – you know!
Jackie
‘This and that,’ Carrie says, which means ‘various different things’. It doesn’t really answer Neil’s question, but as I mentioned before, Neil wasn’t expecting a detailed description of everything she’d been doing; they’re just chatting in a friendly way. We’ll hear that phrase again in this next dialogue. In this one, instead of asking, ‘What have you been up to?’ referring to the recent past, the question is: ‘What are you up to?’ meaning, ‘What are you doing now?’
EXAMPLE
Matt
Hey Jane, how’re you doing?
Jane
Good thanks, and you?
Matt
Yeah – not bad, not bad. What are you up to?
Jane
Oh, this and that. Just the usual! What about you?
Jackie
So again, Jane responds with ‘this and that’ and then she uses the phrase ‘just the usual’ – a way of saying nothing new or different from what she normally does. ‘Oh, this and that. Just the usual!’
EXAMPLE
Matt
What are you up to?
Jane
Oh, this and that. Just the usual! What about you?
Jackie
So a reminder of the language so far: we’ve had, ‘I haven’t seen you for ages!’ ‘What are you up to?’ ‘What have you been up to?’ ‘This and that’, ‘Just the usual’.
Let’s move on to more phrases and topics of conversation you might use. What does Neil ask Carrie this time, after he’s asked her how she is?
EXAMPLE
Neil
Alright Carrie! How are you?
Carrie
Yeah, I’m fine Neil. How you going?
Neil
Yeah, very well. What are you doing around here?
Carrie
Oh, I was just popping into the shop down the road there.
Jackie
‘What are you doing round here?’ – a nice informal and conversational question you can ask when you see someone somewhere you weren’t expecting to see them. Carrie responds by saying she was just ‘popping into a shop’, which is an informal way of saying ‘going to a shop’.
EXAMPLE
Neil
What are you doing around here?
Carrie
Oh, I was just popping into the shop down the road there.
Jackie
Sometimes people comment on each other’s appearance, though usually only if they are talking to someone they know well.
EXAMPLE
Abigail
Hi Sandra! How are you?
Sandra
I'm good thanks!
Abigail
Your hair looks great!
Sandra
Oh, thank you! And I love your dress!
Jackie
Another thing people often do is talk about their surroundings.
EXAMPLES
I really like this pub.
It’s a lovely hotel, isn’t it?
Jackie
Transport and how people got to wherever they are is also a popular one.
EXAMPLES
Greeting
Hi, lovely to see you. Did you come here by car?
Matt
Hi John!
John
Matt! Good to see you! How was the journey?
Jackie
And of course, there’s one topic of conversation we haven’t looked at yet but which we can’t possibly forget to mention is that very British favourite:
EXAMPLES
It’s lovely weather today, isn’t it?
What awful weather we’re having!
Isn’t all this sunshine great!
It’s turned very cold suddenly, hasn’t it?
Jackie
Just a taste of some of the many, many things there are to say about the weather: always a nice, safe topic!
And now, time for a recap of the phrases and topics of conversation we looked at.
You could talk about how long it’s been since you last saw the person:
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