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Let’s face it—long-term relationships can be tough. Between work pressures, caring responsibilities, financial worries and the daily grind, it’s no wonder that romance can start to fade. That spark you once had might feel more like a flicker… or even a distant memory.

In this episode of The Woman’s Hour Guide to Life, Nuala McGovern asks: How can couples reconnect when life gets in the way? Writer Nell Frizzell opens up about the challenges of maintaining love and intimacy after 10 years with her partner and two young children. Then, psychotherapist Susanna Abse and clinical psychologist Dr Amani Milligan join the conversation to offer expert advice on how to strengthen your relationship, improve communication, and rediscover what brought you together in the first place.

Whether you’re feeling stuck in a rut or simply want to future-proof your love life, this is your practical guide to keeping connection with your partner alive.

Key takeaways from this episode:
- Attention is love: Small gestures like noticing your partner’s mood or asking about their day can help maintain emotional connection.

- Disappointment is normal: No partner can meet all your needs—learning to communicate openly and manage expectations is key.

- Schedule connection: Plan time for intimacy, curiosity, and shared fun—even if it’s just 20 minutes or a date night weeks away.

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Episodes of The Woman’s Hour Guide to Life are released on Sundays, only on ÃÛÑ¿´«Ã½ Sounds and you can also watch videos from the recordings on Instagram @bbcwomanshour

Links to episodes:

Guide to Life: Is Friendship Just Another Task? /sounds/play/p0m4q078

Guide to Life: Ambition Without Burnout: /sounds/play/p0m5532v

Guide to Life: Challenging Your Money Mindset: /sounds/play/p0m554dk

Guide to Life: Turning Ageing Into Your Superpower: /sounds/play/p0m554wv

The Woman's Hour Guide to Life is presented by Nuala McGovern. It is produced by Sarah Jane Griffiths with Sophie Powling. The Content Editor is Olivia Bolton. The Executive Editor is Karen Dalziel.

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