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Thanks Zibaxa for this nice and useful post . in Islam , a saying is said by prophet Mohamed ( the strongest isn't by killing but who can control himself during irritation )
It requires a hard talent to calm .

Very nice post, this one like so the others! I couldn't be closer to your point of view, expecially in this moment, when I'm seeing my grandparents becoming older and weaker and I'm becoming aware of the important role they had and still have in my life. Everyone should understand it

Hello Zibaxa,

Thank you very much for this wise post. Your wise message is actually addressed to youth on how to behave towards their parents and grand-parents. One tends to forget about the care he/she has received from his/her parents and grand-parents when he/she was a baby, a child, and an adolescent. An adult sometimes forgets that he/she has passed through a series of stages, in which he/she needed a lot of care, before reaching adulthood.

s you wisely said it, we should take care of our parents and grand-parents. We should love and respect them for all the care they have provided us when we were weaker and in need of their help.

All the best,

Elmansour

Dear abdallah

Yes! Islam says is right. But I'm not talking about controling yourself. I want to say that you must not be angry with your grandma, because she is older, we must learn to respect peoples who older then we.
Thank you for your comment.
Best regards
Zibaxa

Dear denna

Thank you for reading my post. Thank you for you opinion. It is very good that you have grandma, and you can hug her, and say about your love :)

Best wishes
Zibaxa

Dear Elmansour

Your comment reminded me about one story. There is a story in Armenian about grandparents. I hope that I can translate it in a right way.

Once upon a time there is a little boy, he has family. He lives with his grandfather, mother and father. Once, when they had dinner, the boy noticed that grandfather had lunch far from their table and in the wooden plate (here it means plate for poor people and not so comfortable plate for eating). He asked to parents "Why grandfa has dinner out from the table?" they replied that he is old, and he splash(dabble) during eating", boy said "ok". After dinner parents saw the boy making something withe a place of wood, they asked what is he doing and he answered "'m making a wood plate for you, soon you will old".
I think this is a good story to think about. And what is interesting, this story is for 10 years old puiples in Armenia.

Thank you for your comment. Hope you like the story.
Have a good day
Zibaxa

Dear Zibaxa, and All,

Thank you for the wise story. It shows that children will become parents and parents themselves will grow older and become grand-parents. So what you do for your parents, your children will do for you. So take care of your parents and your descendants will take care of you.

The Holy Qoran has recommended to take care of the parents. Here after is the translation of the 23d and 24th verses of the Night Journey:
"Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and that you be good to your parents. If either of them or both of them reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of disrespect, nor scold them, but say to them kind words.

24. And lower to them the wing of humility, out of mercy, and say, 鈥淢y Lord, have mercy on them, as they raised me when I was a child.鈥�

Not only Islam but all confessions pay respect to parents.

All the best.

Elmansour

Hello Zibaxa, I think we all should be respectful to elders even if they are our grandparents or others. You said it right one day we also have to reach that age when we will be frail, weak and their will be youth no more at that time of age.

Best,

Naheed

Hello Zibaxa,

it is sad to read that your neighbour Sona is misbehaving towards her grandmother. We all need to respect everyone of us and be forgiving. Young people don't usually understand what they are saying and lost their temper easely. It is a part of growing up.

To growing up to a responsible person we all need to do our mistakes. Some people do more mistakes than others and some people learn more easely than others. It is important that you still smile at Sona and be kind to her. You can be the adult one and I think that Sona is a good person too. She might be young and behave badly, but we all have atleast two different sides, the good one and the bad one. Maybe it was only a bad day for Sona. That's why we must not so easely judge anyone.

By the way Zibaxa. I think that you are a really good writer. You can express your feelings well in English. I think that it is easier to women to express their feelings. It is more difficult for men. Atleast it doesn't come so naturally when a man is writing and tries to express his feelings.

Well, that's all for now.

Regards

- Ompputhecat -

Dear Zibaxa, and All,

The Armenian story about the wooden plate and the grand-parents reminds me of a popular story my grand-mother used to tell me when I was a child. My story has the same denouement as yours.

This is the story of my grand-mother: 鈥淚n the far past there was a village in a rural area in which old people, no longer needed for work, were were killed by throwing over a cliff . This was the rule agreed on by all the citizens of the village. Any citizen who has an old father or mother should get rid of him/her this way. Then came the turn of a man to take his father to the cliff. When they arrived on the spot, the old person started to laugh his head off. His son asked him why he is laughing instead of crying or being afraid of death. He answered that it is because of what he has done many years ago. He himself had thrown his father from this cliff and didn鈥檛 know that his turn would come one day. What he did for his father his son is doing to him now. The son then realized that his turn would also come one day later on. So instead of killing his father by throwing him down the cliff, he kept him alive and took care of him out of sight. He hided him in a place where nobody could see him and told his community that he had killed him.

It happened after many years that a severe drought held sway on the region. People were short of food. Many died from hunger. Then there was rain. People wanted to plough their fields. But no grains were left as seeds. All the harvests of the previous years were consumed. There was no way out of this situation. When our man visited his old father, he didn鈥檛 speak to him in a cheerful way as usual. The old man asked his son about the causes of his sadness and the latter told him that he had no seeds to sow this year in his fields. His father told him: 鈥淕o to the granary even if it is empty, wipe all the soil from it and also take the remains of the straw and sow them. There must be some grains left in this soil and straw that would grow in your field. Even if he didn鈥檛 believe in his father鈥檚 advice, the man did what he said to him. He ploughed his field and sowed the soil and straw. People laughed at him and said he had become crazy. To his surprise and to that of all the villagers, ears of wheat and barley grew in his field and not in any other field and the harvest was very good.

The villagers asked the man about the secret of his good crops and he told them that it was his father鈥檚 advice. He apologised for not killing his old father according to the rule. But they all realised that the old man was helpful for his son with his ideas and advice. So they all decided to stop throwing their old folks over the cliff. They may be useful alive rather than dead.鈥�

I鈥檓 sorry for the length of the story, but I think you can find it of some use even if it comes from a different culture. It's from Morocco.

All the best.

Elmansour

Think you for your good writen post , i am so enjoyed by reading it .

Thank you for your post.This is a very sad story but we should talk about things like that

Hi Zibaxa,

I have got same ideas as yours, our technology and living are well developed and modernized, however our ethics of some one is not well balanced or even worse. Old persons need to be taken care due to their decreasing efficiency, everbody will grow up and be kids finally.

Jow

very nice

Hello Zibaxa
I can鈥檛 come into my neighbor鈥檚 apartment in a similar situation, even to offer a help. It could be misappreciated. Our cultures are different in this. Relations between neighbors often are more formal, particularly in big cities. And care about the oldest generation frequently more formal. Often it comes down to monthly visits and money supporting.
As for me the best care about the oldest is give them an opportunity to feel possibility to work and live like young, to be more needful for others and to show them a perspective of life. A lot of them look to ground to their feet, see only this day鈥檚 perspective and think how to survive the next one. If you say to old man about his age in negative and told him how he needs in special tendance you make him older.
Victor.

Hello Zibaxa

first of all thanks for this post it shows you are very nice girl, I hope you continue posting on 蜜芽传媒 . I just have a small advertise to you if you accept. please give that girl which you talked about her in your post the time of day and try to talk with her maybe this will be more affect on her than to avoid her . I would like you realize that you encourage me to writing post too.

I'm Rewan B.Mirany for Kurdistan region

Dear Zibaxa,

No doubt to say you are very good person 鈥� for choosing this kind of heart touching post.

Thank you very much from bottom of my heart. Actually we, most of the people when are in young age forgot the past and future - just keep ourselves busy with present. When we are advised, we think they(parents & grandparents) backdated.

The experience you have shared is happing every now and then, here and there.

I agree with you, we should not forgot the truth we will also be grandfather, grandmother and obviously we will be treated like our grandfather, grandmother.

You have share the perfect story while replying @ Elmansour 鈥� here in Bangladesh, my country, there is an advertisement 鈥� kid realizing his mother and father is preparing to send it鈥檚 grandfather and grandmother to 鈥淣ursing 蜜芽传媒鈥�. It asked where you are taking them? Parents, 鈥淣ursing 蜜芽传媒鈥� then it鈥檚 replied 鈥� I will also send you to 鈥淣ursing 蜜芽传媒鈥� when you become old.

Lastly I wanted to say we should not do anything with anyone what we don鈥檛 except from others.

Thank you for the time to read.

hi every one,
Zibaxa your post is to cool. its big big problem of our soicety. if we can't recpect our seniors we can't succeed.
its my firs post at there.

its Bilal Kath, from Karachi, Pakistan

Hi Zibaxa and all friends

This topic is so resonant that it makes people from different cultures give responses. I've been thinking of it for a few days and recollecting the Japanese film 鈥淭he ballad of Narayama鈥�. It was shot in 1983 so probably the young haven鈥檛 heard of it. There is a devoted son who must take his mother to the mountain and leave her alone there because she got old. He doesn鈥檛 want to do it for he loves her but he has to surrender to custom.

Regards,
Tatiana

Hello Naheed
Thak you for visiting my blog and thank you for your opinion. I agree with you. Hope we can change something in people like Sona

Dear Ompputhecat
Thank you for reading my post. I'm sure that every one is a good person, he/she just need to open her/his good side. I think every one of us has some bad charachters, but we have brain to work on our mistakes and to change our charachter. We can change ourselfes and that will be our change in the world
Best reagrds
Zibaxa

Dear Elmansour
Thank you very much for your interesting story. Great story i think!!! Your story made my not more interesting :)
I think everyone need to think about this story. It is very important when we understand our parents role in our lifes. I will give this story to Sona.
Thank you again
Have a good day
Zibaxa

Hello dear KHARTA, afanta and arshad

Thank you!!! It is very pleasure for me that you read an liked my topic.

Best regards
Zibaxa

Hello Jow SingSing

I agree with you, in now days technology and living are well developed but parents still imoprtant. We should stop a moment and take care about them. I'm sure one day our children will do the same to us.
Thank you, your opinion is very important for me
Zibaxa

Dear Victor_Petrovsky

I thought you are from Russia and maybe you tald about Moscow. I've been in Moscow, I'm sure our cultre is different but it doesn't mean that we should forget obout parents and about grandparents. I agree with you. Every day, every moment I'm trying to show my grandma my love and her importance in my life and in the world. Due to that my grandma feels young and happy.

Thank you for you interesting comment
Zibaxa

Dear Rawano

I thought about your comment. Really deep idea! Maybe we should give others chanse to change and help them to change their bad habbits. Maybe it is a bit my fault that I didn't gave her chanse and never talk with her about things like discipline... I talked with her and she knows about my post here, she promissed to read this post, comments, think about and then we will talk with each other (me, her grandma and she). Maybe this is the right way and she can change herself.

Thank you for your comment.
Zibaxa

Dear Majumder

I agree with you. Thank you for reading my topic anc for your comment. I think in Bangaldesh people respect their parents because it is a country of encient culture.

Dear Bilal Kath from Pakistan

You are welcome!!!
Thank you for your comment.

Dear Tatiana

I'm going to watch that movie. Thank you for your omment. Movie seems interesting.

Best reagrds
Zibaxa

hi zibaxa!
Ur shouting story shouts to the yuth of present time to be agree that one day they will also be old as their grand. And if u behave rude with your grand you will also be treated as you will do to your grand. And it happens for sure. So, we must respect our elders neatly.

Zibaxa i love your one piece of writing and that is what Audry Hepbrum said to you. I use it sometimes with my friends though my mothertongue is Bengali.
Thank you for your lovely shouting story... Many many thanks and good wishes for eid-ul-fitar in advance...
From India, Walid

Dear walid

Thank you for visiting my blog and for your lovely comment. I know that India is country of traditions and you appreciate highly youth attitude t grands. I think we have to learn from India!

Best regards
Zibaxa

Congratulation for your post, Zibaxa! I believe that the world needs this kind of ideas to be a better world with better people. Good afternoon for you! From Brazil, Emerson.

I appreciate what zibaxa has done and of course I am sorry for Sona to treat badly to her grandma. each person deserves a good treatment by others particularly older people as well our grandmas and grandpas. so please everybody be gentle to people whom they always have caren about you
good night to everyone

Dear Emerson

Thank you very much for your comment. Maybe some day I will become a writer :)))

Best regards
Zibaxa

Good time of day cameli20

Thank you for reading my post. I agree with you and I like your msg to all people.

Best whishe
Zibaxa

Hi! Zibaxa. I'm from VIETNAM.
Thank you for your post.
My grandma is 70 year old. And I had shouted to her. I think it was a serious fail in my life.No words can defend.
I love her more than anyone. I don't know how she had spent her hard life in The Vietnam war. No money, no husband... but she have three childrens.
I think no anything can offset her abnegation.
All everyone have grandmas who have sacrificed to care, to protect our family.
We must be kind to our grandmas.
We must take care for our grandmas.

One day we will have been grandma or grandfather. So we should think. It is our duty to take care our father, mother, grandma and grandfather.

We all try our best to prove that we are successful people in plublic places, but we don't take enough care of our beloved.
I think it's time for us to calm down and think of what is really important and how to balance our life.

Hi, Zibaxa! I have a question to you. Have you ever shared a flat with a grand for more than a year? I'm not going to justify Sona,and you are right, saying we must take care, we must control ourselves, etc. Of course!
Every day my granny makes some impossible things and I try to keep calm, but then I feel I can't stand it any more, I hit the ceiling and we have some kind of quarrell. Yes, in a few minutes I upbrain myself for doing this, but, really...
Wish everybody lived separate with other generations.

Dear Tuan Ngo

Thank you for sharing your experiance with us. I hope now you aren't shouting to your grandma, take care for her. All our grandmas has a few years for live... so let them be happy and make them happy :)

Best regards
Zibaxa

Dear Nguyenthai

I absalutaely agree with you. THANKS!!!!!!

Zibaxa

Dear Olga

I'm living with my paretns, 3 sisters and 2 grandmas. I think this is well enough experianse. I have never shout on my grandmas, and I will never do.
If you feel angry with grandma, stop your feelings and try to count to 100. You will understand that mostly you like her and dont like shout.

Hope I explain well

Zibaxa

HI,

you select very nice topic.indeed this is keen importance in new generation. Anywhere in the world we should respect elderly people.