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Hello Zibaxa
My three years old daughter is an adopted child. When we decide to adopt we heard from many people that it is a very hard procedure. You have to collect a stack of paper: information about health, realty, income and so on. In fact, it isn’t difficult. The real difficult thing is to survive a time of waiting. We were on vacation in Tallinn when the custodianship officer called and said that our papers are made properly so we could come in office. In this moment we were in old church. Apparently it was a miracle.
And the most terrible thing is when you leave a child in orphan asylum after the first meeting. According the rule you have to visit a baby in orphan home during a month. Every day we went to see Maria. I was ready to take Maria after the first meeting. It was an endless month.
Once when I walk with my girl other one from oldest group come close and ask me take on arms in the same manner as I hold Maria. Babysitter told me ¬later that she still remember mothers arms. The most of children in this home had never been on mothers arms. After this occurrence, holding my baby, I thought: Why other children have to live there?! Why I take this one and leave another?!’ Is this baby better? The clerk of custodianship department said that I can choose a baby. How can I choose?! Is one child better then another?!
Good luck
Victor

Hello Zibaxa and a very warm welcome to ÃÛÑ¿´«Ã½ LE blogs! Your first post has brought a very good and thoughtful topic for discussion. It's all a matter of kindness, love nad compassion. Just a little thought can change the world. I am an animal lover and a supporter of children's rights and with that respect I believe there's no difference between animals and children. Give them love and shelter and in return they give you happiness.

Looking forward to your next post. :)

Naheed

Hello dear Victor

Thank you for paying attention to my blog. First of all I have to say you are very good person, I like you opinion about child homes children.
Connecting with your comment: yes, there are children, that want to be beloved,that want to love, to hug, to have a parents. Unfortunately they have to go through the life alone, they devoid of family, of weasel and they have to do anything to survive in this difficult conditional world.
I don't think that one child is better then others. I think that every child has his own meaning in this world. In the same way we can ask "Why one is reach, and other isn't. Why one is miss beauty of world and the other has some scars on her face" and so on. Questions like this are infinite. This is just life and we can be happy that you can give a happiness to one girl. Others just have to leave for their fortune, for their life. I know that most of them will not have a family at all... It is painful. But look from other side: you save the girl, and she find her fortune. All of us should do this and maybe then in the world would not exist mother who leaves her child and father who leaves his family. We have to be a bit more kind then we are and the world will be a better then it is. This is formula of success!!!
Kiss for me your doughter :* :)

Zibaxa

Dear Naheed

Animals also Gods creation. We have to respect every creation. I"m going angry every time, when I remember that we have to fight for saving animals' lives, for saving children, for care about children, about human... Why there is so much bad things in the world? But also I'm proud that there exist people like you, like Victor, who cares not about themselves, but also for others.
Thank you for reading my post and for your comment.
Best regards
Zibaxa

Hello Zibaxa,
This is the first post from you that I read. This topic is very good. Agree with you, I also think that all of us should take a visit to children home at least one time. I think it will be an advantage for ourselves and them. They can get a new spirit from us, and we also be more grateful to God because we have different paths of life from them.
I ever thought that my parents don't love me because they didn't give what i wanted, but then I realized that lots of children out there don't even have any parent.
I think we should start thinking about others, not only ourselves. We should take care of them as long as we can. :)

Looking forward for your next post,
Devina

Hello Davina

This is my first post on bbc/learningEnglish :)
Thank you for your attention to my post. I agree with you just want to add if we would be more attentive to children, they will know that they are not alone. It is very important to feel that you are not alone in the world.

Thank you
Zibaxa

Hi Zibaxa!
This is my first post on bbc blog (like you XD).

I think that nowadays there are less people who worry about social problems.
It's tru and cruel but there are some people that have a child like a "toy" and they have to know that a baby is a responsability and they have to assume it.

Fortunately, there are a social sector to make aware our society.

You related your experience and it's amazing and loving. Overcoat, when you say that a little girls hug you when you entered for the first time....... Have you ever felt a similar feeling since that?

Congratulation for you Blog. I'll read all your posts.
PD: Sorry for my mistakes. I'm from Spain

Best wishes,

Begabt

Hi, Zibaxa.
It' s a very serious subject. To have no parents is a tragedy for a child. I thing that we must help them. As for me I work at school and every year my pupils and I buy some presents and visit children in a child home. It's so painful to see sorrow in such young eyes.

I could really appreciate your article: it is so depth! I also think that we can should others that need help, specially if they are children!!! Hope to read you again, my sincere compiments! Greetings from Italy!

Dear Begabt

Welcome to bbc :) and I'm proud that your first comment is under my topic. Thank you for reading my post. I would like you to be wrong, but you are right!!! There are people, that can leave their child(ren). I don't know what we can do, except some social work. Also I want to say, that there are very ambiguous children in the child home since that there are some examples that some of them became successful (for example Steave Jobs). All we can do is to help children, and to do our best for give them childhood.

Thank you
Zibaxa

Hello allan

I want to say thank you very much, you are a great teacher!! You teach your pupils to be attentive to others, to understand others need, not to be a selfish ones. I think it is very important for child homes children to feel others love and friendship. You and your pupils giving them friendship. I'm sure your pupils will remember your kind action whole life :)

Thank you very much, I'm happy to read your comment
Zibaxa

Hello Agostino
Thank you for visit my blog. I hope my topic can change something in peoples life (maybe a little but a change).

Greetings from Armenia
Zibaxa

kids are the men of the future, so if we take care of them we can give a good life. and when became older they will take care of us.

I have read your post. Good.

Hello Zibaxa,

You are a careful and sensitive person. You helped chilren and want us all to do the same. You are right. We should empathise with these homeless children and help them to feel better. It's our duty to be of help to the poor and the weak.

Would you please tell us in your future posts about Armenia? I would like to know more about your country through your blogs.

Congratulations for your volunteering.

Elmansour

Dear Zibaxa, I really liked your post...
In the Brazil (my country) there are many children in this bad situation too. Unhappy many people don't care about them.
These children need love and childhood to become nice adults.

Thank you!

Hi, Zibaxa.
I'm accidentally find you blog and was very impressed it.
Write any more, you has abilities certainly.
King regards,
Oleg.

Hello, Zibaxa

Its indeed with a great sentiment of joy that I went out through your very first post. In fact I was extremely delighted to find that YES, we do have young people out there, in all corners of the world cautious about the problems of those children. I really appreciate your undertaking and your effort, so as to at least bring back a smile on the faces of the those unlucky ones

Remember your are not alone in your saintly act. ..Keep doing the good job and continue illuminating the life of those unfortunate children..You will be blessed.

By the way its a high quality post, you will turn out to be great blogger..

Thank you

Hello hassan hureshi, motaleb, Elmansour, Christian Nunes, Oleg Tarasov and amy Varounen.

Thank you all for your comments and support. I'm very happy that I could write something important. Thank you for reading my blog.
And yes, I know that I'm not alone, but I want more people to do this volunteering, to understand this problem. Childhood is very important thing in the life.

Hope you will read my nest topic, it is about Armenia :)

Best regards
Zibaxa

Hello Zibaxa,
I liked your blog and subject. It's really important subject.after going turkey i want to being a protecting family for a child.i wish i could.before i tried and there had been some problems..I love children and I dont want to see them unhappy.

Hi Zibaxa,
your article is very nice and sensitive but I have my own experience with my adopted son. Each man considering to be an adoptive parent would not forget the genes of the child to be adopted. In many families and parents who took their adopted children is known this problem whe the child reaches teen age. This problem always rises in between 12 - 18 year of life even the adopted child has any normal solicitude from its beginning life. Many adopting parents do not know about this problem and they are very surprised in their adopted child's teen age. By my opinion the adopting is fantastic and enrichable role of the parency and whole family but the adopting people should be informed and prepared also for these aspects of adopting. I as speak, DNA is as a hereditary sin - everybody has it and nobody is able to get rid it, only if to control it. I also believe that my adopted son will find how to control his genes and DNA.
I wish good luck
Milan

Dear rubasa and milan57

Thank you for your comment. Rubsa I hope you will find your child. milan57 I'm not talking only about to adopt a child, I'm talking about our attention to other children. Of course you have a big experiance. Hope your sun is happy!!

Zibaxa